Here is Why You’re Easily Stressed All The Time

We have two layers of mind: conscious and subconscious. They affect how we think, and most importantly, our mood. I will tell you how to consciously repair both your conscious and subconscious mind from things that make yourself easily stressed , and automatically make yourself yourself happier.

Hooked Thoughts

Hey, remember that assignment that must be submitted next month? or maybe that unrealistically big project you’re working on? thinking about them makes you stressed a little bit, right? I call these kind of thoughts as “hooked thoughts”. They tend to stay on our mind until we’re finished working on them.

That stressing effect when we think about them is a short term effect. It happens at our conscious mind. I think it’s okay because it literally reminds you of project that needs to be done.
But here’s the big problem…

Hooked thoughts actually hooks in our subconscious mind. They NEVER gone until we finish our project. If you’re a computer geek, here’s the analogy:
Our mind is just like computer’s RAM. What we’re working on and thinking about right now is considered as foreground apps. Other thoughts – Jimmy’s next week birthday, that math equation – are considered to be background apps, so does hooked thoughts.

The problem is, when other “background apps” are actually useful (we can remember Jimmy’s birthday, and that math equation), hooked thoughts tend to be pressuring and doing nothing useful. Hooked thoughts are just filling the RAM (our mind, I mean). They pressure us to do our task, but when we don’t do it, hooked thoughts are literally just pressuring without giving any benefit.

So how to get rid of these hooked thoughts?

Actually it’s simple to be said – do the task when your mind starts to think about that.


Anxious about The Future?

If you feel anxious about your future – that somehow, it might not always good (everyone’s future is the same, too), from my experience, I learned that we don’t need to predict what will happens at the future, all we must do is to decide what we want, set a plan to achieve that, and do anything we can do to stick to that plan. We must create our future, not thinking about it for our whole life.

Stay Calm and Organized using This Kind of To-Do List

Common to-do apps make us like a robot

Common to-do apps are superbly good; they even have alarm to wake you up, to ask you to “do that now!”.

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Taken from Wikipedia

But those apps make us really like a robot, we’re automated. That’s why I publish my handmade Freeflow to-do list — primarily made in Excel, or sometimes in my notebook. And I’m sure this handmade to-do list doesn’t make us like a robot.

What differs Freeflow to-do list?
– It doesn’t have any schedule so you’ll never see “do homework at 08.00 pm”.
– It has clear task prioritization (every different priority level has different background color).
– It has more than one column (can be used for urgent task).
– It doesn’t ask you “do that now!”; instead, it gives you answer of “what I have to do next?”.
– It doesn’t have alarm.

In order to use Freeflow to-do list, you must:
– Not procrastinate.
– Not place your hobby at the top of the list.
– Keep asking yourself “what I have to do next?” then find the answer at the list.
– Stay motivated.

How to create Freeflow to-do list

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After step 1 & 2

1. First, open Microsoft Excel (or others equal) and change first 3×3 cells’ background color (any color you like). Note: you can use more than 3×3 because these cells will be used for “high priority” tasks.
2. Then, change other 3×3 cells’ background color below the first 3×3 (make sure it’s different).
3. Write high priority tasks in the first column of the first 3×3 group cells; if it’s filled up, you can use the second column, then the third. Note: second and third column are made to anticipate first column’s insufficient space.

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After step 3 & 4

4. Do the same for low priority tasks, but write them in the second 3×3 group cells.
5. Then start to ask yourself “what I have to do next?” then find the answer at the list; try to do high priority tasks first.
6. Do tasks in a pattern (I like zig-zag)

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I like to do task in zig-zag pattern (RED LINE)

7. Delete finished tasks by clicking their cells, then press “del”.
8. If you realize that the to-do list is empty (because you’ve done all the tasks), then you can enjoy your life; freedom!

What’s your opinion?

What do you think is the best color for the “high priority” group cells? What is your favorite pattern to do tasks? Do you think you’ll live more freely using this to-do list? Do you have any idea to improve Freeflow to-do list? Share your thoughts and ideas; I’m sure all my readers are brilliant thinkers with brilliant thoughts and ideas.I will surely reply every single of your comment. Don’t be afraid to say “hi!”.

How to Manage Stress Caused by Kids – Tips from The Guardian’s Stuart Heritage


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Great tips I can’t ignore them, how about you?

Few hours ago, I visited The Guardian to get some new ideas. Honestly, most ideas come out from nowhere predicted, like this one.
One of The Guardian author, Stuart Heritage published a very interesting article about how to coach a children mini rugby team. He inspires me with some tips I’ve never heard before; I consider these tips as the best tips for every parents in this world – these tips are so good that I can’t ignore them.

What Stuart does?

Stuart wastes his Sunday’s time by coaching a children mini rugby team. The first thing I learn from his article is that you don’t need to go to business college to start a business; so does Stuart, he knows nothing specific about rugby, but he has the courage to coach the kids about it.
Surprisingly, what Stuart knows are:
a. What rugby is
b. How to play rugby (the basic)
and the most important…
c. Understanding the kids and face them calm and great
Stuart then gave some tips he wrote in his article at The Guardian, and these tips are…

The Tips

Stuart wrote some great tips to face kids in his article, here they are:
a. Be approachable and enthusiastic
How can kids tell what they want when you’re not in there for them? How can kids talk to you when your face makes them frightened?
Be an approachable parent; make yourself available for your kids. And the second rule: always look enthusiastic about everything they talk.
b. Never count from five to zero at your kids
This ‘five to zero’ count is a method commonly used to frighten every kid out there. There are two possible outcomes:
– If you count at good kids, they’ll frightened, and they’ll think that you’re scary; you’ll be unapproachable
– If you count at naughty kids, they’ll let you count until zero, and they’ll realize that you’re powerless after the count reach zero
c. Don’t make too much rules; instead, be enthusiastic about whatever your kids do.
d. Communicating with kids is all about the kids; don’t talk too much about yourself, try to listen more about the kids’ day.
e. Don’t be intimidated; you’re an adult; keep calm even when your kids call your name.

Another Personal Tips from Me

Yep, I have few tips for you:
a. Your stress is usually caused by:
– You’re handling too much things to do
– Your kids are in a bad mood
– Both
b. Try to prioritize things to do with to do list, etc.
c. Try to ask yourself “is this thing important enough?” for everything you have to do.
d. Try Stuart Heritage’s tips to face your kids so they’ll never in a bad mood again.

I Dare You!

At the first sub-headline of this article I stated “Great tips I can’t ignore them” for Stuart Heritage’s tips; the question is HOW ABOUT YOU?
Have you tried all (or some of) the tips above?
What works? What doesn’t?
Share your experience using ‘leave a reply’ below; you’re welcome to this challenge. Also share this article to others; more people join this challenge, my research would be much more better.

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